10 Signs to know if your guy is a gay

Years ago it was just between man and women trying to have a family,Centuries after then, issues of homosexuality have surfaced the earth. Although as time went by, society began to accept them, but still the church is strongly against those gay-lesbian relationships. And the controversies have not yet stop, rather it expanded with bisexuals trying to break in into social circles.

I didn’t know before that bisexuals exist I only knew that there are boys, girls, gays and lesbians not until I met this bisexual classmate of mine during High School. Only then I know what bisexual meant.

Bisexual-means sexually attracted to both men and women

Homosexual-sexually attracted to people of the same sex

There are 6 Kinds of Abnormalities of relationships there goes the Homosexuals, Bisexuals, Not so straight, Closet Queens and the undefined. The situation is a havoc  that you can never pinpoint who is who and what they really are based on your first acquaintance. Its either you have fallen head over heels over an arrogant straight guy or you’ve definitely fallen on your face over a gay guy. Neither of the two is a good choice. Girls wouldn’t want to end up with the second choice over a bisexual guy. It’s not an option most females would likely choose, choosing someone who will leave you once they “comes out of the closet.”

I had lots of homosexual and bisexual friends and while talking to one of my gay friends. He looked at me and said, “Trust me, alam ko bakla din siya. ”

“I know kasi naaamoy ko siya,” he added.

It sounds nonsensical , but it slightly made sense, I understand what he is trying to convey that they had the ability to distinguish their own race (kalahi). He was referring to our bisexual friend, a closet queen. We were suspicious that he was a bisexual he had live in denial for years that was why we were surprised when he’d finally admitted his preference and gender and when he finally unveiled his partner whose also a homosexual . I applaud him for his deep courage. It has been an extremely emotional and hard process for most, it is very scary for someone to reveal his or her true self to his friends, family and especially to the public. You need a lot of courage to do that! I respect and admire their relationship on how they struggle  and fight for their love against their family. It is already expected that their families are not in favor of their relationship. I hope that their story would be an inspiration for all the closet queens out there. Do not be afraid to unmask the truth, it is better to tell the truth than hiding into reality. A lot of men live in denial for years. But please don’t live in a lie. Because in the end every detail will come out!

Relationships have become more complicated these days that you cant even decipher that a He is actually a He and a She is really a She. Just by browsing pictures on Facebook you could no longer tell if a woman is really a woman. Just by merely looking at their pictures you could be easily deceived by their beauty and femininity. The world is in such chaos that you can no longer tell if a she is really a she. I also observe that some gays are even more alluring and charming than women. Reality Bites.

Are you wondering if your other half is a gay? For those who wonder it’s a horrible dilemma. This post has inspired and led me to outline possible signs that your boyfriend might be bisexual or gay. Use these signs to know your man better. Before you confront him , check him against this Top 10:

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Here are a few Signs to know if your guy is a gay and see how he scores:

10 Signs to know if your guy is a gay

1.       Check his bathroom rituals, watch how meticulous he is with his grooming and how long does it took him inside the bathroom, how many times he takes a shower, if he’s more groomed and has more bathroom rituals than you are then that is highly questionable. Gay men are often meticulous.

2.       Ask for his favorite music and singer he might be singing Celine Dione and Mariah Carey songs and listening to Paramore and Lady Gaga. A real man wont sing those songs. Check his Mp3/Mp4/Ipod he might be obsessed with girl groups and female singers.

3.       Check his Google Chrome or Mozilla Firefox or Opera Mini browsers history, check the links he’s visiting, check if he’s visiting gay porn sites.

4.       Check his mobile device or laptop if he has M2M(Man-to-Man) Vids, gay porn, transexual porn, or Shemale Hentai ghetto Videos(A woman with a penis) Straight guys do NOT watch gay porns NOT occasionaly, not rarely, NEVER. They do not entertain the idea of a men going at it, they said its not arousing. If it is, then you’re a homosexual. Straight guys couldn’t stand watching M2M porn. If he’s into gay porns then his obsessed with dicks! Maybe your just a security blanket to him!

5.       Closet queens pretend to hate gays. Observe his behavior towards the gay men if he reacts too strongly on the negative or too violently- perhaps he’s pretending to hate gays so no one wouldn’t suspect him for being a closet queen.

6.       He flirts with men. Girls can be sweet to each other but guys DON’T. They never ever do  Guys don’t compliment other guys. Like for example a man won’t say “Wow, You got a hot and cool muscles” “Nice Body”. Only a man who’s sexually interested  with another man would try to flirt with another man.

7.       Chart your sexlife, note how often you and him are intimate and if you’re always the one who has to start the process rolling. Is he a kind and understanding partner who likes spending time with you, but avoids kissing passionately and breaks away from the kiss within a few seconds?

8.       Touch his rectum to see if it was stretched open with a dick.

9.       If he likes anal sex more than vaginal sex. If he watches gay porn and likes to put it more in the butt, he might be gay! Then that’s a sign.

10.   We all know that most straight guys typically loves sex. They want to have it regularly and enjoys it. Closeted gay men might avoid it and would try to make excuses.

My Advice:

                                Some says never confront a man about his sexuality. Because its hard enough coming out of the closet. But the point is the females are the victims in here, they use a woman as a beard to cover up who they are and what about us? What about the woman who invested their hearts, who were being played and used the whole time? But please don’t live in a lie anymore, because in the end everything will come out… I think it is better to talk with your guy, try to be calm while talking to him. If he still denies it then maybe he’s not yet ready to admit it to himself. Just wait for the right time until he’s ready and he has sorted out his feelings. And if ever he admits it FACE THE REALITY , the signs are there , don’t ignore your woman intuition. I know that its hard to start over again when you love someone…

Baguio City’s Laperal: The Haunted White House

Baguio City’s Laperal: The Haunted White House

Hello my fellow bloggers and readers! It had been months since I last updated this blog, I had been very busy those past few months from my school thesis and work that I do not had the time to blog anymore, I almost wanted to quit blogging, but thanks to my fellow readers because of you I was determined to start blogging again despite my busy schedule. During my vacation after my summer class I went to this famous haunted house in Baguio City called the “Laperal: White House”. So now let’s unveil the haunted story behind the mansion.

Closer view of the Laperal Clan’s haunted house

The History behind the Old White House:

If you are seeking for adventure like ghost hunting the 4-hectare “White House” is the perfect place for you. It is located on Leonard Wood Road in Baguio City near the Teachers Camp and was now owned by Lucio Tan in 2007 which still remains to be unoccupied. According to what I have read on the Daily Inquirer it was formerly owned and built by Roberto Laperal in the late 1930sThe house was named after the family who once owned it. The mansion had its own taste of cruelty and horror due to the killings of the Japanese Soldiers during the World War II. The Old White House had been a witness from the cruelty of the past; it has witness the Filipino men being tortured and killed and the women being raped inside the mansion’s bedroom. Stories say that the Japanese murdered people here including its inhabitants.

Master’s bedroom

The master’s bedroom

Restless Spirits inside the mansion

Those restless spirits which have been killed before are still wandering inside the mansion.  It is said that the owners of the mansion, the Laperal Family was killed by the Japanese. Roberto Laperal, one of the last Laperals to live, said to have died after slipping and hitting his head.

It is believed that the restless spirits are still roaming inside the mansion, some taxi drivers were afraid to pass the Leonard wood road during late hours for the fear that they might see apparitions in the house. The taxi drivers honked their horns each time they passed the house as a way of excusing themselves to the spirits. The caretakers observed these restless spirits for sometimes the lights would switch on and off, some people who passed by the mansion saw something moving in the windows. According to the house caretaker she was hearing footsteps from the stable in the basement and windows being shuttered even when no one was around. There are media accounts saying, that the old man, Roberto Laperal could still be heard walking inside the house. The security guard and taxi drivers even saw an apparition of a woman in white going to and out of the house. The guard said that he saw the woman walk through the gates and passed over him in the porch and entered through the main door. A guest with a third eye said that restless spirits are still living in the mansion. The spirits were strongly felt inside the master’s bedroom and in another room. Another story, tells about unidentified young girl was spotted at the stairs of the house. While I was making these blog, I was even in Goosebumps.

The old grandfather’s clock

The fireplace at the ground floor

The staircase that leads to the 2^nd floor. I kept on taking pictures hoping that I might find something creepy.

We took a tour around the house with a heavy heart. I don’t know but while I was wandering through the house it felt so eerie and scary of course knowing that you are inside a haunted house. And my travel buddy Kevin kept on scaring me, I don’t want to scream for I might disturb those spirits that is why there was a sign there which says Observe silence. He kept on opening every door and every closet to satisfy his curiosity. But there were several doors which can’t be opened probably locked. The mansion is really big that even the sound of the creaking door gives me the shiver.

A large scary portrait of a man inside the  closet which scared the shit out of me. Sigh! We were startled after seeing the picture because most of the closets were empty except for this one.

The top view of that creepy narrow staircase, I was really scared to climb the stairs Idk why either because it really gives me the shivers.

A picture of me scared to climb up the stairs, and in there at the top left where I encircled you could see an image of a black lady staring right behind me at the wall. You could barely see a clear image of a woman looking at me and Ugh! That scared the shit out of me. I don’t know if it is one of the ghosts of the haunted house or was it just my wild imagination. Actually I didn’t notice the woman behind me at all I just realized it after posting our pictures in Facebook and one of my Facebook friends commented in this picture and said that there’s a black woman staring behind right me. And whoa! I couldn’t believe it but when I zoomed the picture there really is a clear image of a woman staring at me. I felt eerie after I saw that maybe we have disturbed those spirits in the haunted mansion and I felt sorry and scared. And I remembered on our way back home to San Fernando, La Union while I’m on the bus I fell asleep for awhile and was awakened by the passengers getting out of the bus then I saw someone staring at me it was a woman and she looked mad by the way that she’s staring at me. I was shocked because why will someone stare at me like that? Have I done something wrong? I crumpled and rolled my eyes because I am still sleepy I just woke up from the noise of the passengers, I rolled my eyes and looked again at the woman but then I just saw the back of a man sitting opposite from me. And the woman was gone. That was one of my scariest experiences and I believe that, that was the same woman at the picture. I don’t know if it’s just my wild imagination playing with me while I’m at the bus or maybe because I was just tired and sleepy that was why I saw something like that. Ugh! I don’t know whatever it was I felt sorry because it might be that we disturb those restless spirits inside the haunted house because Kevin kept on opening every closet he saw every doors that we passed and we are very noisy too screaming and shouting inside the old mansion. I really am sorry for disturbing them. L